5 Myths About Miscarriage (and the Truth that sets you free!)
Miscarriage is one of the hardest things a mother may ever walk through, and yet it remains shrouded in silence and misunderstanding. Myths and wives tales often amplify the pain, leaving women to grieve in isolation, questioning their worth, their faith, and even their God.
But we are here to dispel the lies. The truth brings light, and in that light, we can begin to heal.
Let’s address five common myths about miscarriage and speak the truth that sets us free.
Myth #1: Miscarriage is Rare
The Truth: 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.
For many, miscarriage feels like the loneliest thing in the world, but the reality is that 1 in 4 confirmed pregnancies end in loss. This number doesn’t even include the early losses that happen before a woman knows she’s pregnant.
Why does this myth persist? Because our society has conditioned women to suffer in silence. We don’t know how to talk about miscarriage, so we don’t. This silence isolates women and families, making them feel alone in their grief.
But you are not alone. There is a community of women who have walked this path, and by breaking the silence, we can walk it together.
Myth #2: Miscarriage Happens Because of Something You Did
The Truth: Most miscarriages are beyond human control.
Perhaps one of the cruelest lies women hear—whether whispered by Satan or well-meaning people—is that their loss is somehow the result of something they did. The TRUTH is that you didn’t drink too much coffee, eat too much sushi or soft cheese, miss a prenatal vitamin, or stress too much.
Most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities that no mother could control. As John 10:10 reminds us, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.” Satan will do everything he can to convince you otherwise, to accuse you, and to shake your faith. But you MUST know: your loss is not a punishment. You are not to blame.
Myth #3: Miscarriage Grief Should Be Short-Lived
The Truth: Grief is not linear.
The world often treats miscarriage as an invisible loss, dismissing it with phrases like, “At least you can try again.” But what society doesn’t understand is that grief is a reflection of love—and love doesn’t have an expiration date.
You’re grieving not just the physical loss, but also the dreams and the life you imagined for your child, no matter how short they were with you. And that grief deserves space. It’s okay to feel the depth of your pain and to take the time you need to heal. God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He weeps with you.
Myth #4: Early Miscarriage Isn’t as Significant as Later Loss
The Truth: A loss is significant at any stage.
From the moment you see those two pink lines, your heart begins to dream. You imagine their laugh, their first steps, their future. When a miscarriage occurs, it isn’t just cells and blood that are lost—it’s a BABY- and the future you envisioned.
The timing of a loss doesn’t dictate its weight. Whether it’s six weeks or six months, the pain is real, valid, and deserving of acknowledgment. If you need to decline baby shower invitations or take a break from social gatherings, give yourself grace. Honor your grief, and don’t let anyone minimize it.
Myth #5: Faith and Grief cannot coincide.
The Truth: The church should be prepared and comfortable in grief.
Too often, the church avoids the subject of miscarriage, unsure of how to approach it. Well-meaning people say things like, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away,” or, “God must’ve needed another angel,” unintentionally placing blame on God and deepening the mother’s pain.
But the Bible calls us to “weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15). The church is meant to be a safe haven for the grieving, a place where loss is met with compassion and practical support. Imagine what healing could come if churches offered miscarriage ministries, support groups, and acknowledgment of the tiny lives lost too soon.
A Final Word of Hope
If you’ve experienced miscarriage, know this: Your pain is not the result of an angry God. God is the giver of life. Even in your deepest sorrow, He is with you, holding your tears in His hands.
Miscarriage is not the end of your story. Restoration will come—sometimes not necessarily in the way you expect, but in the way God knows you need. For me, restoration came in the form of my four beautiful children in the midst of fifteen miscarriages, my ministry, and the profound peace of knowing my babies are held in the arms of Jesus.
So let us dispel these myths together. Let’s speak the truth and offer hope. Let us ensure that no mother walks this path alone.
You are loved. You are seen. And your grief matters.
XOXO,
